You know sometimes you hear something and you think that is such a bad idea, there is no way anyone will buy into it, like wealth redistribution. But the next thing you know, not only does someone agree with this absurd idea but they begin to embrace it. Now don't get worried I am not blogging about the impending socialist revolution I am actually talking about sex bracelets.
Truly what a stupid idea; and yet not only has it been embraced but people are actually wearing them. If you are new to this phenomenon let me catch you up. You will be quick to recognize these jelly bracelets they were a fad in the 80's, first sported by Madonna and Cyndi Lauper. Today a person wears the bracelet and depending on the color another person snaps off the color of their choosing. The color bracelet correlates to a sexual favor which the snappee must now grant the snapper. The color chart as best as I know is the following : Yellow means hug, pink means give a hickey, orange means kiss, purple means you are willing to kiss either sex, red means perform a lap dance, green means oral sex performed on a girl, clear means anything goes, blue is oral sex performed on a guy, and black means missionary sex. There are glittery bracelets which hold more sexual favors, but I think you get the point.
I am stupefied why anyone would choose to take part in this really bad idea. What do you think others think of the bearer of the bracelet. Do you think kids today even care? Are parents buying these for their kids? Are kids using their allowance money to buy them? The whole idea of this "game" makes my head spin. I was talking to a "friend" who is in Jr high. She was telling me about people who are wearing these that she knows personally. I casually started asking questions. Are they advertising their services or using the bracelets to brag about their conquests. I got a lot of shrugging in return.
By allowing ANYONE to walk up and snap a colored bracelet off your wrist, you are giving control of YOUR body to someone else's whims. Understandably if you are wearing the bracelet maybe you are up for anything. But does that include the random stranger at the gas station you are advertising your sexual freedom to? These bracelets speak volumes about your character and if you wear this bracelet you are saying that you should be treated as an object and not a person. You are there, available to fulfill someones passing need. But what are you getting in return? This game is certainly not going to fill a void in your life, if anything it will create a bigger hole that you have no idea how to fill. This unhealthy game will lead to big problems, and I am not just talking about STDs.
Sex is a very intimate act meant to bond a husband and wife. Outside the parameters of marriage in particular, inside the boundaries of this insidious game you devalue the meaning of sex and equally so the value of your character. Sex is not a game and neither is your life, so stop treating it like one.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Time to get on my soap box
Friends I am careful to use this blog for the intended purpose of spreading the news of abstinence until marriage. So far I have been careful not to use it to spread my political views (and I have a LOT to say), nor have I used it in talking about my religious beliefs. So tonight I am going to get on my soap box, because there is an issue that I can no longer ignore. It would be negligent of me to not discuss the FOCA.
The Freedom of Choice Act while harmless in title will have devastating consequences if passed. I will touch on some of the "highlights" of this disgusting bill and then follow up with some of my personal thoughts. FOCA states:
-abortion is a fundamental right and no agency or person should be able to interfere with a
woman's right to choose to have an abortion.
-taxpayer money would be used to perform abortions (so the gov't has no say so if you can
have an abortion but then are also expected to pay for it?)
-allow partial birth and late term abortions
-allow abortions by non-physicians and non-regulated clinics (allowing abortions that may put
a woman's health at risk)
-minors will not be required to notify their parents
For over 35 years we have been taking baby steps to overcome the decision of Roe v Wade. And while we have made great strides we still have far to go. Since Roe v Wade there have been
48,589,993 abortions. We have lost beautiful people in the military. Since the Iraq War began in March of 03 we have lost 4,186 soldiers. Who died with honor and a belief in their cause, of liberating a nation and spreading democracy throughout the world. Over these men and women of valor there has been total outrage. May I ask where is the outrage over the 48 million innocent lives that were MURDERED so that a woman would not be INCONVENIENCED by her CHOICE to have sex? 48 Million can you even begin to comprehend how totally wrecked God must be, when He sanctions all life? FOCA will not lower the number of abortions in America it will increase the number and without regulations a woman's health is at a greater risk.
Let me tell you ladies, I am all about your freedom of choice. You may choose to have sex or you may choose to not have sex. If you choose to have sex then you better be ready to put on your big girl pants and deal with the adult consequences. There are options available to you, adoption and keeping this precious gift from God. Murder is not an option. So stop calling your self pro-choice and go ahead and call it pro-murder.
This week I have received an amazing blessing. I have my first godchild. A beautiful (and I am not biased) little girl. Her mommy and daddy had to wait a long time for her. And lucky for them, my goddaughter's birth mom decided to do the selfless act and give her baby to a loving family. My friends are in good company waiting for others to follow suit and choose life, choose love over selfishness.
So now what? Get busy. Call your congressman, call everybody in Washington DC and let them know that we are not okay with FOCA. We need to do God's work down here. We cannot sit and watch this bill pass and do nothing. You must inform others of this evil legislation before it is too late. And while I try not to express my political views on this blog I must point out that one candidate supports this disgusting legislation and one does not. Okay I will put my soap box
away....for now.
The Freedom of Choice Act while harmless in title will have devastating consequences if passed. I will touch on some of the "highlights" of this disgusting bill and then follow up with some of my personal thoughts. FOCA states:
-abortion is a fundamental right and no agency or person should be able to interfere with a
woman's right to choose to have an abortion.
-taxpayer money would be used to perform abortions (so the gov't has no say so if you can
have an abortion but then are also expected to pay for it?)
-allow partial birth and late term abortions
-allow abortions by non-physicians and non-regulated clinics (allowing abortions that may put
a woman's health at risk)
-minors will not be required to notify their parents
For over 35 years we have been taking baby steps to overcome the decision of Roe v Wade. And while we have made great strides we still have far to go. Since Roe v Wade there have been
48,589,993 abortions. We have lost beautiful people in the military. Since the Iraq War began in March of 03 we have lost 4,186 soldiers. Who died with honor and a belief in their cause, of liberating a nation and spreading democracy throughout the world. Over these men and women of valor there has been total outrage. May I ask where is the outrage over the 48 million innocent lives that were MURDERED so that a woman would not be INCONVENIENCED by her CHOICE to have sex? 48 Million can you even begin to comprehend how totally wrecked God must be, when He sanctions all life? FOCA will not lower the number of abortions in America it will increase the number and without regulations a woman's health is at a greater risk.
Let me tell you ladies, I am all about your freedom of choice. You may choose to have sex or you may choose to not have sex. If you choose to have sex then you better be ready to put on your big girl pants and deal with the adult consequences. There are options available to you, adoption and keeping this precious gift from God. Murder is not an option. So stop calling your self pro-choice and go ahead and call it pro-murder.
This week I have received an amazing blessing. I have my first godchild. A beautiful (and I am not biased) little girl. Her mommy and daddy had to wait a long time for her. And lucky for them, my goddaughter's birth mom decided to do the selfless act and give her baby to a loving family. My friends are in good company waiting for others to follow suit and choose life, choose love over selfishness.
So now what? Get busy. Call your congressman, call everybody in Washington DC and let them know that we are not okay with FOCA. We need to do God's work down here. We cannot sit and watch this bill pass and do nothing. You must inform others of this evil legislation before it is too late. And while I try not to express my political views on this blog I must point out that one candidate supports this disgusting legislation and one does not. Okay I will put my soap box
away....for now.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Where do I begin?
Tonight I truly do not know where to begin, I have so many issues to address. Now I need to narrow it down to just one, so which one will it be? Tonight I think I would like to talk about character. The old saying that opposites attract is true. However attraction is half the game character is the entire game. I meet people who want to stay pure until they are married. Their number one concern is finding someone whose values mirror their own. I know when I was dating and really wanting to get married that I had resigned myself to "settling". It would be impossible to find someone who thought of "sex" as old fashioned as I did. I have no complaints, in fact I was quite lucky. No one I ever dated thought sex was a deal breaker. And to my knowledge no one ever dumped me because of it. But I do remember wondering if what I was looking for really existed. And on the second date with my husband I found out it did.
Back to my first thought about opposites attracting. Who knows why people have chemistry together, but if all you have in common is chemistry that will not sustain a relationship. And that is why I talk of character. Maybe none of my boyfriends pushed me, because we had our character in common. Sure there were boys I met that had MAJOR chemistry, but after a few dates when you know that is all you have, you know that it is not going any where good. AHHH memories. And what I remember is that the ones I shared just chemistry with had none of the character traits I was looking for.
I don't mean to focus just on the struggles of the female looking for a suitable male. I know all about the girls that do not share any of my character traits. These are the girls sending naked pictures of themselves to boys via the Internet and cell phone. Guys I know it is hard, no pun intended, to turn away from these vixens, but I promise if what you want in the long run is a girl to live happily ever after with, she is not the one. Really can you bring one of these girls home to meet your mama and look your parents in the face with pride? And what about this scenario...are you the first boy she ever sent a picture or suggestion to? Better yet, let us not forget that 1 in 4 girls that are sexually active have an STD. DO you want the mother of your children to be the one that gave you herpes?
You will note that I am not trying to change the mind of these pushy girls. I wonder if they just don't have the foresight to see that this fast living comes with life long consequences. And for many a very sad life full of very bad, disappointing, unfulfilled relationships. These are the girls that at 23 look like they are already 35. Fast, hard, living has a way of aging you and it is like a billboard about your character. If you haven't yet traveled down this road just fast forward to where you see yourself in 10, 15, 20 years do you see a happily ever after? Is that what you want? What you are hoping to find in a life mate be sure you are exhibiting those same traits today. Your character is not something you can change when you are ready to grow up, your character is what becomes of you as you grow up.
Back to my first thought about opposites attracting. Who knows why people have chemistry together, but if all you have in common is chemistry that will not sustain a relationship. And that is why I talk of character. Maybe none of my boyfriends pushed me, because we had our character in common. Sure there were boys I met that had MAJOR chemistry, but after a few dates when you know that is all you have, you know that it is not going any where good. AHHH memories. And what I remember is that the ones I shared just chemistry with had none of the character traits I was looking for.
I don't mean to focus just on the struggles of the female looking for a suitable male. I know all about the girls that do not share any of my character traits. These are the girls sending naked pictures of themselves to boys via the Internet and cell phone. Guys I know it is hard, no pun intended, to turn away from these vixens, but I promise if what you want in the long run is a girl to live happily ever after with, she is not the one. Really can you bring one of these girls home to meet your mama and look your parents in the face with pride? And what about this scenario...are you the first boy she ever sent a picture or suggestion to? Better yet, let us not forget that 1 in 4 girls that are sexually active have an STD. DO you want the mother of your children to be the one that gave you herpes?
You will note that I am not trying to change the mind of these pushy girls. I wonder if they just don't have the foresight to see that this fast living comes with life long consequences. And for many a very sad life full of very bad, disappointing, unfulfilled relationships. These are the girls that at 23 look like they are already 35. Fast, hard, living has a way of aging you and it is like a billboard about your character. If you haven't yet traveled down this road just fast forward to where you see yourself in 10, 15, 20 years do you see a happily ever after? Is that what you want? What you are hoping to find in a life mate be sure you are exhibiting those same traits today. Your character is not something you can change when you are ready to grow up, your character is what becomes of you as you grow up.
Monday, October 13, 2008
This is for you, Scott at the nervous nation!
As I mentioned in Saturday's blog, lately I have encountered people who think I am wasting my time. One was our new friend, Scott who left a comment on my blog about Gardasil, the other was a private email I received. I plan to address both of these, but today I will just answer the questions raised by Scott.
The first thing I noticed Scott say was that abstinence would prevent "some" HPV disease. Ah, no, that would be ALL HPV. Now this is assuming that by abstinence I am not just talking about the actual act of intercourse. Yes, everyone, you can get an STD by your genitalia rubbing up against your partners. SO no contact sports can be played until Marriage.
Scott's next argument is that, "abstinence is not tenable because it is not the norm". Does that mean we don't strive to change ANYTHING? Someone alert the media and their darling Barack Obama. I do believe people can change. I have met people who have heard me talk about the risks that have decided to change. It is as if every voice out there: in music, movies, all media outlets are all saying it is okay to have sex like it is our right. But with sex, comes a duty to be responsible and to educate people and to tell them it is okay not to have sex. There are so few voices representing the alternative, that is why I do this. I wonder you mentioned the 50% divorce rate, do you know the rate of divorce when people wait to have sex until they are married? Don't worry neither do I. Wouldn't it be an interesting subject? I can say from personal experience that having waited until I was married, I love my husband more today than the day I married him. And I never worry the next morning if he will call me, or if I was good enough. There is something about getting to have sex and having NO worries about it! And incidentally, I feel the same about sex outside of marriage if you are a divorcee too. The risks for STD and other consequences don't disappear just because you are no longer in your twenties.
Finally, Scott, you corrected me, Gardasil does protect you from 4 of the 100 strains of HPV, not just two. But it does not change the percentage. You are still risking getting HPV at 30%; a number I am still not comfortable with. And yes, it will protect you 90% of the time from genital warts Yea Gardasil!!!!!!!!!!
To my readers, I want you to know that I liked Scott raising questions. Anytime I am asked to defend my stance on something it often reiterates and energizes me and my initiative. And sometimes it allows me to get a little bit more detailed in my argument. SO don't ever hesitate in playing my devil's advocate. I accept it and anticipate the challenge.
The first thing I noticed Scott say was that abstinence would prevent "some" HPV disease. Ah, no, that would be ALL HPV. Now this is assuming that by abstinence I am not just talking about the actual act of intercourse. Yes, everyone, you can get an STD by your genitalia rubbing up against your partners. SO no contact sports can be played until Marriage.
Scott's next argument is that, "abstinence is not tenable because it is not the norm". Does that mean we don't strive to change ANYTHING? Someone alert the media and their darling Barack Obama. I do believe people can change. I have met people who have heard me talk about the risks that have decided to change. It is as if every voice out there: in music, movies, all media outlets are all saying it is okay to have sex like it is our right. But with sex, comes a duty to be responsible and to educate people and to tell them it is okay not to have sex. There are so few voices representing the alternative, that is why I do this. I wonder you mentioned the 50% divorce rate, do you know the rate of divorce when people wait to have sex until they are married? Don't worry neither do I. Wouldn't it be an interesting subject? I can say from personal experience that having waited until I was married, I love my husband more today than the day I married him. And I never worry the next morning if he will call me, or if I was good enough. There is something about getting to have sex and having NO worries about it! And incidentally, I feel the same about sex outside of marriage if you are a divorcee too. The risks for STD and other consequences don't disappear just because you are no longer in your twenties.
Finally, Scott, you corrected me, Gardasil does protect you from 4 of the 100 strains of HPV, not just two. But it does not change the percentage. You are still risking getting HPV at 30%; a number I am still not comfortable with. And yes, it will protect you 90% of the time from genital warts Yea Gardasil!!!!!!!!!!
To my readers, I want you to know that I liked Scott raising questions. Anytime I am asked to defend my stance on something it often reiterates and energizes me and my initiative. And sometimes it allows me to get a little bit more detailed in my argument. SO don't ever hesitate in playing my devil's advocate. I accept it and anticipate the challenge.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
I'm back
After a great trip to Disney with the family, I am back! And this time with even more gumption than before. I know you can't imagine me having more, but it is true. Before I left for vacation I submitted a blog on Gardasil; it really seemed to ignite some controversy and even some not too happy comments. Several incidents occurred around this same time, and all had the same message...give up you are fighting a losing battle. I kept saying to myself, "I am not going to let these people talk me out of my mission". But truth be told maybe there was a slight weakening in my fight. And then I went to Disney World and these doubts were making rumblings in the back of my head. I really was contemplating how to move forward and did I want to?
On day 3 of our trip, we found ourselves in Epcot. You may not know that Disney shut down Spaceship Earth last year to update it. So there I was in Spaceship Earth riding along with my six year old daughter when a voice on the speaker came on and said, "What does your future look like? Can you see it? You can make it look like whatever you want as long as you have a vision". And I thought to myself, this is too hokey even for me; I looked around to see if there were going to be any singing mice chanting you can do it, Jennifer! (There weren't) But man I found my fight again.
Yes, it is against the norm today to wait until marriage to have sex, so does that mean I must settle? How about I just sit my 2 little girls down today and tell them the good news about Gardasil, birth control, and condoms and tell them you can have all the sex you want because everyone else is doing it. Forgive me, but that is not the future I see for this household. And for all of you negative nellys who want to try to dissuade me you will have to work a lot harder; either way YOU are going to LOSE! You will not make me give up. I can see a better future, but it is going to take educating the masses. Again this is just one blog, but if you believe in it then you can help me. Spread the word, we can change and I am not talking about the "Obama change". I am talking real, honest to God change that can change the world. One person at a time, who is with me?
On day 3 of our trip, we found ourselves in Epcot. You may not know that Disney shut down Spaceship Earth last year to update it. So there I was in Spaceship Earth riding along with my six year old daughter when a voice on the speaker came on and said, "What does your future look like? Can you see it? You can make it look like whatever you want as long as you have a vision". And I thought to myself, this is too hokey even for me; I looked around to see if there were going to be any singing mice chanting you can do it, Jennifer! (There weren't) But man I found my fight again.
Yes, it is against the norm today to wait until marriage to have sex, so does that mean I must settle? How about I just sit my 2 little girls down today and tell them the good news about Gardasil, birth control, and condoms and tell them you can have all the sex you want because everyone else is doing it. Forgive me, but that is not the future I see for this household. And for all of you negative nellys who want to try to dissuade me you will have to work a lot harder; either way YOU are going to LOSE! You will not make me give up. I can see a better future, but it is going to take educating the masses. Again this is just one blog, but if you believe in it then you can help me. Spread the word, we can change and I am not talking about the "Obama change". I am talking real, honest to God change that can change the world. One person at a time, who is with me?
Friday, October 3, 2008
Disney world here we come
Sorry for the lack of blog lately it is not for a lack of anything to say. The family and I are off to Disney World and we will be returning at the end of the week. Upon my return you have my word that I will be blogging with a great deal more regularity. I hope you will tune in and keep reading.
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