Congrats Jamie Lynn, we are so proud?

This morning I woke up to the news that teen sensation, and new mommy, Jamie Lynn Spears was going to be marrying her baby daddy! I just sighed there is so much to be done! When I get to talk to teens about abstinence I always start by asking, "What is the worse thing that can happen to you if you choose to have sex outside of marriage"? Undoubtedly the first answer I get every time is pregnancy. It floors me that this is still what we are most terrified of happening. Forget the STDs that you may contract that will render you barren or itchy for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. No you are worried about a baby. Why worry about a baby? Can't you see how well Jamie Lynn and her sister Brittany are doing? If there has EVER been a poster child for adoption these two sisters are it.


Please allow me the opportunity to talk about adoption today. If you have made the choice to be sexually active outside the boundaries of marriage and now you are with child please consider adoption. It is truly one of the most selfless acts you will ever do. To give a baby, that you are incapable of adequately caring for yourself, to a two parent home full of love and security would be making the best out of a pretty bad situation. The only alternatives are not very attractive. You could keep it, and hope that someone will still want to go to the prom with you. But don't forget if you do go to prom to be sure to line up a babysitter. And when the baby is waking up every two hours to feed maybe you could find some time to study for your next exam.


I will not say that abortion is an alternative. Whereas adoption is the most selfless act you can commit, abortion is by far the most vile and selfish act you can commit. I know you are probably saying, "but Jennifer, what about a woman's (or teenage girl's) right to choose? I am all for choice. Your choice is to sleep with him or not sleep with him. But once you decide to sleep with him then you are saying you can handle all of the consequences that come with it. Including pregnancy. So you are pregnant and don't want to be inconvenienced by the baby so you do what? You kill it? How is that even rational? Better yet...how is that even still legal? There are many a girl or woman who have chosen the abortion route and many will tell you the "problem" does not go away after someone vacuums out your uterus that my dear is when the problems just begin. You would have a lifetime of guilt and regret to face. It is truly a burden many women take to the grave.


I did not say that adoption would be easy. Taking this option, you would still have the joys of morning sickness, heart burn, stretch marks and a bladder that is used as a trampoline for the life growing inside. And there would be great heartache for when the baby goes to live with a mommy and daddy that will love and nurture him or her for the rest of their lives. But there are thousands and thousands of families looking for a baby to love and maybe you can help complete a family.

I know that probably none of the options I have mentioned sound promising. So why don't we back it up to when YOU are making the Choice to sleep with him or not to sleep with him. Choose Not and then you will not be forced to face these impossible situations. It just dawned on me that most of this was written for the girls, but the boys need to realize they are not off the hook and one day soon I will be addressing you as well! So congrats Jamie Lynn getting married at the ripe old age of 17! I am sure your parents are just too proud!

My web site

I'm not even a week into blogging, and I am already addicted. I especially enjoy the comments from friends and complete strangers! Today I worked on my website and I encourage you to go take a look and share it with anyone you think may be interested. www.livingwithnoregrets.com I did it myself, so it has a homemade feel to it, like I am in kindergarten making my parents a card.

It is often said that if you want to be successful in life you should do what you love. I know that this venture can be successful, because of my passion and love for it. If I inspire you in anyway please share my information with others; the more contacts I make the more lives I can reach.

I know I should talk about abstinence today, but truth be told I am thinking about Disney World. We are 66 days out from our vacation and I think I am just as excited as the girls (maybe even more). I love that while in Disney my girls can be girls, and somehow my husband and I are also transformed to a much younger version of ourselves. Everything is magical when you are in Disney.

That is all for today, check out the site and tell me what you think.

Attention Parents are you talking?

Day 2 and I have a million thoughts running through my head. Who do I want to talk to today? Today I want to ask the parents are you talking to your kids about S-E-X? Because let me tell you everyone else is! Last year I had an opportunity to drive an hour north of here to talk to a group of kids 9th thru 12th grade about abstinence. There were about 30 in all, and I felt it went very well. Sure I had the few looking at me as if to say, "Sorry sweetheart, but that bell has already been rung!" And I was looking right back at them letting them know we can always stop ringing the bell. After the talk, three beautiful girls approached me and said that no one had ever told them it was okay NOT to have sex. They thought something was wrong with them. I gave them a big hug and my email in case they ever needed to talk. As I was driving home, I found myself so angry with their parents. As parents we teach our kids to not run with scissors and to stop jumping off the furniture because we don't want them to get hurt. Why in the world would we not talk to them about something that not only can cause physical long term damage, but also is potentially emotionally and psychologically scarring? Listen up parents! The awful truth is that 1 in 4 sexually active girls has an STD and 1 in 5 boys. I don't know about you but the dating pool for my daughters is getting smaller and smaller. I need to clean this pool but I need your help. TALK TO YOUR KIDS!
Here is a concept....family dinner time. I seriously don't remember my parents telling me directly about abstinence but I somehow knew exactly how they felt about sex outside of marriage. I also know we sat down every night and they asked each of us (there were 3 of us) how our day went and what did we learn. One of my most memorable dinners came the night my younger brother (he was in 4th grade) announced at the table he knew all about sex. My mother very calmly encouraged him to pease share with the rest of us. He said, "Well first you find a girl and ask her out for a date. If all goes well you will date for a while and maybe even hold hands." My mother was nodding and smiling as he continued, "then if you fall in love, you ask her to marry you and then after you are married, you can have sex, but if you really love her, you can have sex first and then get married." I did not know my mother could move that fast as she leaped over the dinner table screaming "Oh no you don't!" My older brother and I were laughing hysterically, but we too got the message loud and clear!
It's time to talk about sex, and you cannot feel awkward or squeamish about it. Did you feel awkward telling them to look both ways before crossing the street? As I said, talk to your kids about sex. EVERYONE else is and they are getting a lot of bad info.

Losing My Virginity

Well here I go....my first blog! After this I will no longer be a blog virgin! Which is ironic because the gist of this blog is going to be ALLL about abstinence until marriage. Well maybe not all about abstinence. The title of my blog, Living With No Regrets is what I think about all the time. How can I help the next generation make the right choices so that their life is not filled with regret? I am a lone voice that while shouting is all but a whisper when the rest of society is screaming do what feels good and make sure it happens right now! Just because it is done on MTV or some cool dude is singing about it doesn't mean it is right for you. What is IT? Most of the time IT is sex, but sometimes IT is smoking, drinking, or doing drugs. SO if you decide to become a regular on my blog you may get the rantings of a mad woman who feels she is in the battle by herself, or maybe you will find me gathering and organizing my troops, and still yet you just may find me talking about my sweet family. It is that family that inspires me to wage this war against a society that worries more about what feels good now than the catastrophic consequences that come later. But there will be plenty of time to get into that.

I want to thank my dear friend Christy for pushing me (literally) to do this. Somehow she is allowed to push me when I will not let my wonderful hubby give me that kick in the butt I so often need.

And to any one who decides what I say may have some value I welcome you and extend an offer to you to join my ranks and help me in this battle to help our next generation. To help them live a wonderful, fulfilled life and not swimming in a pool of regret.